Initiation
Initiation is the structured threshold experience through which a person passes from one level of formation to another — a deliberate encounter with difficulty, death of a previous identity, and emergence into expanded capacity and responsibility.
An initiation is not just a hard experience. It's a hard experience that changes what you are on the other side. Most cultures understood that certain thresholds — adolescence, marriage, leadership, war, the death of a parent — required deliberate ceremony and structure to be properly crossed. Without that structure, people go through the difficulty but don't receive the formation. They survive the threshold but don't cross it. Modern culture has largely removed initiation — and produced a generation of adults who haven't been through the door.
Initiation rites were central to virtually every traditional culture — Greek mystery religions (Eleusinian Mysteries), indigenous rites of passage, medieval guild entry, military ordination. All followed a similar structure: separation from the previous identity, liminal experience (threshold, ordeal, dissolution), and reincorporation at a new level. The initiated person was recognized as fundamentally different from the uninitiated — not superior, but formed at a different level.
Largely reduced to hazing, fraternity rituals, and corporate onboarding — the external form without the formative content. The psychological and anthropological literature (Turner, van Gennep, Campbell) preserves the genuine concept. In popular culture, associated with secret societies or religious conversion.
Modern culture has eliminated most genuine initiation while retaining the word for trivial transitions. 'I was initiated into the team' means you completed HR onboarding. The cost of this is enormous: people encounter major thresholds — failure, loss, confrontation with mortality — with no framework for receiving what those thresholds offer. They survive the experience and remain unchanged by it.
- Major difficulties are received as initiatory — the person asks 'what is this forming in me?' rather than 'when will this end?'
- The person can identify clear thresholds in their own history where they became someone they could not have been before
- Responsibility is accepted that matches the level of formation — the initiated person does not avoid the accountability that comes with having crossed the threshold
- The person can be a guide for others approaching the thresholds they have already crossed
- Initiation refused — the threshold encountered but not crossed; the difficulty survived but not received
- Initiation imposed on others prematurely — using difficulty as punishment rather than formation
- Initiation performed — claiming to have crossed a threshold without doing the actual formation work
- 01Can you identify the thresholds in your own history that fundamentally changed what you were capable of?
- 02When you encounter major difficulty, do you look for what it is forming in you, or primarily for how to escape it?
- 03Are you living at the level of responsibility that corresponds to the formation you have actually undergone?
Initiation is the threshold that makes development irreversible — the experience that, properly received, forecloses certain reversions and opens capacities that were not previously available.